#84 – Try Speed Dating!!!

Hahahahaha. This was fun. So weird, but fun now that I’m writing about it and not experiencing it anymore. I apologize for the crappy cell phone pictures – I was trying to be discrete.


Looking back on this – its also kind of like the cantina scene from Star Wars


I found this group on Meetup.com, but I looked further into the company and they are  actually legit!  You really do get 12 mini-dates in about an hour… Now – in other cities this might be a little better, but in Charlotte, the 12 dates I “met” were…well…  The age range was supposed to be 25-39. But they were definitely flexible with those rules.  10 out of the 12 guys were over 39…so.


Ladies had to sit in these little upholstered booths numbered 1-12. The guys rotated around when they rang a little bell.

I met a lot of…ahem…interesting people.  A  man who played bad guys (only) in Christian plays and was pretty happy about being typecast, a Hungarian gravedigger, a tree “breeder” – he made it clear that he was not a tree farmer, nor did he own a grove of trees, but he literally breeds new species of trees – mmmmmkay. I got a lot of this:



Also there was the psychologist, who was more interested in analyzing my legs than listening (gross), the guy who was pounding multiple Jameson shots and chasing them with Guinness before we got started, and the guy that told me his entire life story in under 5 minutes.  Close talkers, bad handshakers, weird starers, blech.


My little love nest…

BTW – that is just tonic in my glass, I gave up booze for lent. I can’t decide if that’s good or bad in this case.  On the one hand it might have made the experience a little more bearable, on the other hand, might have clouded my judgement.  Wait nope… no amount of alcohol could have turned these frogs into my prince…sorry.


I gave full disclosure that I was doing 100 new things before I turned 30 and speed dating just happened to be one of them – thinking that it would dissuade some guys from being interested.  Nope – they all said they wanted to talk more later, all asked for my number, and all said that they felt a “connection”.  It kinda sounded like they’d been given a script with blanks where they fill in their job, check single-divorced-or -separated, hobbies and interests…


Um… I definitely don’t


What was also weird was that they gave us a little card where we could take notes. And then you are supposed to go home log in online and “check yes or no” on the people you met.   I think they said if you check “no” for everyone then you get another FREE ROUND OF SPEED DATING!

Why in the world  would I want to do this again?

Two positive notes about #84: First, I have to give credit to everyone who was there trying this thing out.  It takes major guts to get back out there after a divorce or breakup or years of sitting home with your mom.  You are all brave brave souls and I am sorry for making fun of you in the internet.

Second, there was one nice, normal guy. We’ve been out a few times. But still neither of us would recommend this to anyone in Charlotte.

#15 – Watch the Star Wars Trilogy – pt 1

Number 15. on “THE LIST “ was “Watch the Star Wars trilogy all in one sitting – never seen them, never really wanted to, but I think I might understand men a little better if I do…”


This has been interesting item to check off the list.  I’m not sure if it actually is helping me understand men better. Some maybe; I finally get all the cheesy jokes my dad has been making by entire life.

Its also a little more complicated. I was corrected in that there are not 3 movies – but 6.  Therefore its taking a little longer than I thought. I did not make it through all of them in one sitting. I barely made it through the 1st two,  but luckily I have a friend, G, who is helping to help guide me through this VERY INTENSE process.  Sunday night we watched the first two – which are actually 4&5 our of 6… Its all really complicated and there is a ton of vocabulary that you need to know to understand what is going on.

So –  To help out others like myself I have decided to create a watching guide as I go titled:

“Tips for watching Star Wars for people who aren’t interested in Star Wars.”


#1. There are 6 movies. The first three were made in 1977, 1980, and 1983. Then in 1999 – they decided to go “BACK” in time and make three more movies to tell the story of Darth Vader becoming a bad guy (because people were probably really confused). Then apparently they have changed the names of these movies a couple of times.

(Thanks wikipedia)

Also there are rumors that they are making another one… greeaaaaaaaaaaaat.

#2. Just like in every movie – there are good guys and bad guys. These are the good guys: Gangs-All-Here-Star-Wars-Preview

And these are the bad guys (I’ve only watched two so I don’t know what all of these are – I just literally googled “bad guys star wars”):StarWarsBad-l

#3. This takes place in the future in an imaginary solar system that looks like actual space but there are more planets and people and weird things that aren’t people – like this.


#4. Sand People aren’t people – apparently the writers forgot to go back and give them a name like wookie.

#5. The force is basically magic.  And I clearly need it for this:


#6. The whiney guy at the beginning, Luke Skywalker, is actually the “hero” so don’t make fun of him if you are watching with a die hard fan. They will take it personally.


#7. Young Harrison Ford is really the hero and the only reason you will continue to watch these movies. 

#8. The special effects and graphics and costumes are actually pretty impressive for that time. Maybe that is because I am watching the fancy enhanced BluRay versions…

#9. There is a scene in the 1st one (4th one – whatever) that is known as the “cantina scene” – this is what bars actually look like after 2am. I have just discovered this recently since I gave up drinking for lent – trust me, its scary and I don’t recommend it.


ok – that’s all for now… more to come when I finish watching!